I have now been legally separated for six months, a requirement in our state before they grant a divorce. We have two children 12 and 9. Our marriage of 19 years has had its problems as expected. We always stayed committed to each other to working things out and God has been part of this process.
I found out last year my wife had been having an affair with a married man for almost a year. It crushed my world and heart. After thought and prayer I confronted her with my knowledge of her affair. I told her I would be willing for us to work through this with God at the center, knowing it would be long and painful. She decided wanted a divorce and we went through the legal separation process.
As part of my healing I have been through consoling, prayer and dealing with my life’s changes. At first I was ok with our separation, and kind of felt a bit relived. But now I believe God is speaking to my heart about keeping my marriage together. Divorce was never an option for me and I don’t believe in God’s plan. My wife is at least borderline bipolar. She was given medication last year and refused to follow up or take it. Her family history also has it.
That aside I’m not completely sure what Gods plan is now. I would take a huge miracle to restore my marriage. Perhaps I need to move on? There are six months left on our separation then the divorce can be filed. I will take one of us to file it. Do I not file it? She may not, knowing her personality. Then do I stay married and separated forever? That’s very difficult too. I need prayer for all these questions and my children as well.